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  The ultimate GO BIG or GO HOME Hello lovely, So remember how the last post was about having a mission?   Well, I have news for you.  I am putting my money where my mouth is, or perhaps that should be I am putting my mouth where I trust the money will be. [...]

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

In retrospect, I have known what my mission is for at least 25 years –  but I took a very long and convoluted route to get here. I have done a lot of things for work in my life, ranging from the seriously corporate to the deeply holistic and quite [...]

My mission: Have Miracles, Will Travel

Left to their own devices it’s depressing to see that the most apparently mature people handle conflict very badly.  Given the lethal combination of a bad day and the right person pushing the wrong button, Ka-Boom! instant regression. From responsible, grown-up dealing with an issue in a rational, solution-oriented manner, [...]

The simple 7 step process to handle conflict like a ...

Transformation soup:     Each and every time it is deliciously different. The flavor exquisite yet unrepeatable because the recipe is dictated by the unique ingredients.           Portions: Serves the world   Ingredients: One bunch of wilted people A couple of decades of experience Equal measures [...]

A recipe for healing, growth and transformation

We don’t say about someone who jumps from a burning building that we wish they had known how well-loved they were. Despair is like torture. Everybody has a breaking point no matter how loved or brilliant or successful they are. I am saddened when I read again and again that [...]

About Suicide – RIP Robin WIlliams

I was writing an entirely different post about why soulmates are a pain in the ass when I came up with the idea that relationships are like picnics – and then I got completely carried away.   It is Summer, though   One: Don’t serve left-overs from other picnics that [...]

Relationships are like picnics – Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts

  “I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I [...]

The part of me I don’t want you to see

Fear is such a formidable foe and self-doubt can be a lethal assassin.   You may – or may not – have noticed that you hadn’t heard from me for a while.  When I look back on the past six months, fear has played far too great a role in [...]

Dealing with fear and feeling like a failure

There is no aspect of life more ripe with opportunities to grow than our relationships.  It also seems to be perhaps the most difficult and often painful way to learn.   Sometimes, I get the distinct impression that I may have been a little over confident when I signed up [...]

The rollercoaster of unhealthy relationships

One week into January and for the vast majority of people, the New Year’s resolutions they made with such good intentions have already bitten the dust. Lack of will power is only part of the problem, your resolutions may be doomed from the start because the way they have been [...]

4 secrets to goal-setting success

I have become quite entranced by the power of organizing this year and I am recommending it to several of my clients and many of my friends. I have been waxing lyrical about discovering the almost magical healing properties of this seemingly mundane activity. Ironically, given that it is all [...]

It’s not about the stuff – how organizing can heal ...

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Today is Yom Kippur, the most sacred day of the year to those of the Jewish faith which calls for reflection, repentance and atonement. As I thought about this day and what it means, I was struck by the idea that the desire to make amends or reparation for wrong-doing [...]

About forgiveness

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“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are [...]

Living and Loving Fearlessly

Being in the business of helping people, it’s a little annoying that it always seems so much more difficult when I’m dealing with my own problems.   Undoubtedly it’s all due to a lack of perspective and not being able to see the wood for the trees.    Sometimes the [...]

How To Make Anything Better

    Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein   Today I’d like to talk to you about getting unstuck from unhealthy situations in important relationships.  I have heard it said that 99% of the solution to any problem is to become [...]

I have to stop going to the hardware store for ...

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Productivity, Schmoductivity.   Some days when I have been doing a little too much for a little too long, my inner child throws a tantrum and I am forced to take it easy, whether I want to or not. So, today I invite you to de-stress, chill out and take [...]

Productivity Schmoductivity: Being a grown-up is over-rated

I had an amazing weekend facilitating the Vive La Différence Weekend for Couples with Bruce Gold. I am awed and humbled by the transformational power of love. It truly is the strongest medicine. This morning, one of the participants forwarded me an email she had received today which I would [...]

My purpose is love

It’s Mardi Gras tomorrow, historically a day of indulgence to consume the remaining foods that will be given up for Lent which begins the next day. This 40 day period which begins on Ash Wednesday and culminates in the celebration of Easter  is prescribed as a time of penitence for [...]

If God loves me so much, why does he want ...

  Don’t you hate it when, just as you least expect it, the untamed past escapes its cage? With silent stealth, it attacks without warning, devouring any present peace in one fell swoop. Before you even know what’s happened, it pounces and you find yourself captive, dangling powerless from the [...]

The terrible jaws of regret

Unless you live in a cave, you are probably aware that it was Valentine’s Day yesterday. All things romantic are foremost in my mind not just because it’s THAT month again, but also because I’m majorly excited that next weekend I’ll be offering the Vive La Différence Couples Workshop in [...]

Come on Baby, re-light my fire – how to get ...