I love the continuity of growth and support that comes from attending weekly or bi-weekly circles but one of the challenges that arise once the numbers increase beyond 4 or 5, is that time rarely offers the opportunity for everyone to do a piece of personal work.  I developed The [...]

The lightning round – A simultaneous work process for ...

Your dreams called, they want you back. How would your life be different if you were able to look at the world and your future with wonder and excitement?   Where would you go? What might you try if you had no fears of rejection, failure, of not having enough, of [...]

An invitation to have courage

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Today I made a new friend, nothing remarkable in that, except for the fact that we started this day as complete strangers, if not enemies ,who hold totally opposing beliefs on a topic we both feel very strongly about.  Prior to today our only point of connection had been that [...]

Why we should invite our enemies for tea

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Friday June 10th 2016 –   Big Island, Hawaii This week marks the one year anniversary of the date I arrived in South Africa on a one-way ticket to begin my personal life experiment as a global nomad to challenge myself to move beyond fear and take no day for [...]

#havemiracleswilltravel Day 365: Arriving

If you’re too stressed to read a whole blog post, try this instead 8 steps to avoid burn out 1) First, visualize very gently leading your inner child to a safe place for a nap 2) Calm the F*ck Down 3) Get a reality check on everything you think you HAVE [...]

Are you America’s Next Top Martyr? How to suck less ...

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Happy New Year, lovely! I was listening to a Freakonomics Podcast today called “When Will Power isn’t Enough” in which Katherine Milkman, a Professor of Behavioral Economics from Wharton Business School was being interviewed about her research into what helps motivate us to change habits.      Most of the program was talking [...]

The Fresh-Start Effect and how to make it work for ...

I am contemplating mortality. Thinking and talking about Death is not a big thing in our consumer culture for a reason. It tends to take the shine right off that alluring new toy to ask yourself “Would I still want to buy that if I were dying?” Probably not. Things [...]

What should be on your Bucketlist?

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  The ultimate GO BIG or GO HOME Hello lovely, So remember how the last post was about having a mission?   Well, I have news for you.  I am putting my money where my mouth is, or perhaps that should be I am putting my mouth where I trust the money will be. [...]

What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

In retrospect, I have known what my mission is for at least 25 years –  but I took a very long and convoluted route to get here. I have done a lot of things for work in my life, ranging from the seriously corporate to the deeply holistic and quite [...]

My mission: Have Miracles, Will Travel

Left to their own devices it’s depressing to see that the most apparently mature people handle conflict very badly.  Given the lethal combination of a bad day and the right person pushing the wrong button, Ka-Boom! instant regression. From responsible, grown-up dealing with an issue in a rational, solution-oriented manner, [...]

The simple 7 step process to handle conflict like a ...

Transformation soup:     Each and every time it is deliciously different. The flavor exquisite yet unrepeatable because the recipe is dictated by the unique ingredients.           Portions: Serves the world   Ingredients: One bunch of wilted people A couple of decades of experience Equal measures [...]

A recipe for healing, growth and transformation

We don’t say about someone who jumps from a burning building that we wish they had known how well-loved they were. Despair is like torture. Everybody has a breaking point no matter how loved or brilliant or successful they are. I am saddened when I read again and again that [...]

About Suicide – RIP Robin WIlliams

I was writing an entirely different post about why soulmates are a pain in the ass when I came up with the idea that relationships are like picnics – and then I got completely carried away.   It is Summer, though   One: Don’t serve left-overs from other picnics that [...]

Relationships are like picnics – Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts

  “I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I [...]

The part of me I don’t want you to see

Fear is such a formidable foe and self-doubt can be a lethal assassin.   You may – or may not – have noticed that you hadn’t heard from me for a while.  When I look back on the past six months, fear has played far too great a role in [...]

Dealing with fear and feeling like a failure

There is no aspect of life more ripe with opportunities to grow than our relationships.  It also seems to be perhaps the most difficult and often painful way to learn.   Sometimes, I get the distinct impression that I may have been a little over confident when I signed up [...]

The rollercoaster of unhealthy relationships

One week into January and for the vast majority of people, the New Year’s resolutions they made with such good intentions have already bitten the dust. Lack of will power is only part of the problem, your resolutions may be doomed from the start because the way they have been [...]

4 secrets to goal-setting success

I have become quite entranced by the power of organizing this year and I am recommending it to several of my clients and many of my friends. I have been waxing lyrical about discovering the almost magical healing properties of this seemingly mundane activity. Ironically, given that it is all [...]

It’s not about the stuff – how organizing can heal ...

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Today is Yom Kippur, the most sacred day of the year to those of the Jewish faith which calls for reflection, repentance and atonement. As I thought about this day and what it means, I was struck by the idea that the desire to make amends or reparation for wrong-doing [...]

About forgiveness

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“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are [...]

Living and Loving Fearlessly