Just Say No to Resolutions


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Dearly beloved,

As the holidays draw to a close I wanted to reach out and send you off into the New Year with much love and warm wishes that 2012 will bring you all that you can dream of – and some things so good you couldn’t have even imagined them!

As far as resolutions are concerned, I’d like to suggest that you don’t make any.  This New Year how about loving yourself for exactly where you are instead?   Instead of focusing on what you want to change, make a list of what you have achieved this year.  If your year sucked so badly that you are drawing a blank, try a list of what you survived instead.

Of course, I do still want you to grow this year and having goals is a great idea.   As long as you don’t set yourself up with an over-ambitious list of resolutions and then crash and burn before the month of January is out.

Find and celebrate the good and brave in yourself and encourage those parts to keep up the good work.

Come up with a short list of baby steps that you can be confident in ace-ing.  Enjoy the instant gratification and surf on over with confidence to create another little list.

Life is hard enough with beating yourself up and – if you stop and think about it – shame and guilt are a lousy method of self-motivation.

It’s not a bad thing to make your goals public so you have to be accountable, but why not choose a friend who can cheer you on as well.

If that’s all too tame and you want to up the stakes, think of a cause to which you are totally opposed and write out a check to them.   Next, give the check to someone you trust and tell them that if you don’t follow through by an agreed upon time, you want them to mail the check.

I’d love you to keep me posted on your progress and if you would like me to be your personal cheerleader, I have a small number of coaching spots available – in person or by phone or Skype.

Finally, I’d like to invite you to join me and ask you to help me spread the word about my two upcoming workshops, “Vive La Differénce! The Weekend for Couples February 25th and 26th and something totally new,  “Me Time for Mommies”,  a four-week coaching program is for rookie and veteran moms alike that takes place on Thursday evenings in Mt Airy starting January 12th.

For more information call or email me and I wish you and your loved ones a wonderful year,

Mirabai