broken heart


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Fear is such a formidable foe and self-doubt can be a lethal assassin.   You may – or may not – have noticed that you hadn’t heard from me for a while.  When I look back on the past six months, fear has played far too great a role in [...]

Dealing with fear and feeling like a failure


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There is no aspect of life more ripe with opportunities to grow than our relationships.  It also seems to be perhaps the most difficult and often painful way to learn.   Sometimes, I get the distinct impression that I may have been a little over confident when I signed up [...]

The rollercoaster of unhealthy relationships



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Today is Yom Kippur, the most sacred day of the year to those of the Jewish faith which calls for reflection, repentance and atonement. As I thought about this day and what it means, I was struck by the idea that the desire to make amends or reparation for wrong-doing [...]

About forgiveness


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“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are [...]

Living and Loving Fearlessly



Being in the business of helping people, it’s a little annoying that it always seems so much more difficult when I’m dealing with my own problems.   Undoubtedly it’s all due to a lack of perspective and not being able to see the wood for the trees.    Sometimes the [...]

How To Make Anything Better


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    Sweetheart, I’m so glad you reached out to me.  I hear that you are hurting. I’m so sorry that life is really hard right now. I have time for you.    How can I support you right now?   Where are you?   Can you find somewhere quiet [...]

What to read when you’re on the edge



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Holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year but they can also be the most difficult.   There is something about the message that this particular time should be full of joy that can create a lot more pressure for people who aren’t feeling particularly joyful for various [...]

How to survive the most wonderful time of the year ...


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Evolution equips us with the desire to learn from the perils we survive. Once bitten, twice shy; yet this pre-historic instinct designed to protect us from predators and poisons, really doesn’t serve us when applied to affairs of the heart. Take Alice. Alice has a broken heart. Like a clock [...]

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