Transformation soup:     Each and every time it is deliciously different. The flavor exquisite yet unrepeatable because the recipe is dictated by the unique ingredients.           Portions: Serves the world   Ingredients: One bunch of wilted people A couple of decades of experience Equal measures [...]

A recipe for healing, growth and transformation

I was writing an entirely different post about why soulmates are a pain in the ass when I came up with the idea that relationships are like picnics – and then I got completely carried away.   It is Summer, though   One: Don’t serve left-overs from other picnics that [...]

Relationships are like picnics – Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts

There is no aspect of life more ripe with opportunities to grow than our relationships.  It also seems to be perhaps the most difficult and often painful way to learn.   Sometimes, I get the distinct impression that I may have been a little over confident when I signed up [...]

The rollercoaster of unhealthy relationships

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Today is Yom Kippur, the most sacred day of the year to those of the Jewish faith which calls for reflection, repentance and atonement. As I thought about this day and what it means, I was struck by the idea that the desire to make amends or reparation for wrong-doing [...]

About forgiveness

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“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are [...]

Living and Loving Fearlessly

    Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein   Today I’d like to talk to you about getting unstuck from unhealthy situations in important relationships.  I have heard it said that 99% of the solution to any problem is to become [...]

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I had an amazing weekend facilitating the Vive La Différence Weekend for Couples with Bruce Gold. I am awed and humbled by the transformational power of love. It truly is the strongest medicine. This morning, one of the participants forwarded me an email she had received today which I would [...]

My purpose is love

Unless you live in a cave, you are probably aware that it was Valentine’s Day yesterday. All things romantic are foremost in my mind not just because it’s THAT month again, but also because I’m majorly excited that next weekend I’ll be offering the Vive La Différence Couples Workshop in [...]

Come on Baby, re-light my fire – how to get ...

I am not a pilot, brain-surgeon or rocket scientist. Nor am I planning the invasion of a small country, yet you could be forgiven for thinking so, judging by my ruthless obsession with increasing efficiency. I am doing more things, more quickly than I even thought possible. I am communicating [...]

Life Lessons from a Dying Man

    Sweetheart, I’m so glad you reached out to me.  I hear that you are hurting. I’m so sorry that life is really hard right now. I have time for you.    How can I support you right now?   Where are you?   Can you find somewhere quiet [...]

What to read when you’re on the edge

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Dearly beloved, As the holidays draw to a close I wanted to reach out and send you off into the New Year with much love and warm wishes that 2012 will bring you all that you can dream of – and some things so good you couldn’t have even imagined them! [...]

Just Say No to Resolutions

Things may be hard. So hard they may be waking you up at 3 in the morning. You try to keep sleeping but no: now the soundtrack is going… you know, the  soundtrack  of all the things you suspect are related to how your shoulders feel so tight, not to [...]

3 a.m. Crib Sheet – guest post by Heidi Fischbach

Holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year but they can also be the most difficult.   There is something about the message that this particular time should be full of joy that can create a lot more pressure for people who aren’t feeling particularly joyful for various [...]

How to survive the most wonderful time of the year ...

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I saw this photo on the web today and I just had to buy the poster.    To me it says so much about what so many women I know yearn for in relationship:  To be able to be the driven woman,  charging ahead towards her goals and yet to also [...]

The alpha woman in love – does your success hurt ...

I have a new post on Lifehack this week, with some advice about first dates which you can check out here if that pertains to you. If on the other hand, the days of first dates are happily far behind you, I also have something for you! Have you have [...]

Ten Tips for tremendous first dates and one of the ...