I was writing an entirely different post about why soulmates are a pain in the ass when I came up with the idea that relationships are like picnics – and then I got completely carried away.   It is Summer, though   One: Don’t serve left-overs from other picnics that [...]

Relationships are like picnics – Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts

There is no aspect of life more ripe with opportunities to grow than our relationships.  It also seems to be perhaps the most difficult and often painful way to learn.   Sometimes, I get the distinct impression that I may have been a little over confident when I signed up [...]

The rollercoaster of unhealthy relationships

I have become quite entranced by the power of organizing this year and I am recommending it to several of my clients and many of my friends. I have been waxing lyrical about discovering the almost magical healing properties of this seemingly mundane activity. Ironically, given that it is all [...]

It’s not about the stuff – how organizing can heal ...

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Today is Yom Kippur, the most sacred day of the year to those of the Jewish faith which calls for reflection, repentance and atonement. As I thought about this day and what it means, I was struck by the idea that the desire to make amends or reparation for wrong-doing [...]

About forgiveness

    Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein   Today I’d like to talk to you about getting unstuck from unhealthy situations in important relationships.  I have heard it said that 99% of the solution to any problem is to become [...]

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I had an amazing weekend facilitating the Vive La Différence Weekend for Couples with Bruce Gold. I am awed and humbled by the transformational power of love. It truly is the strongest medicine. This morning, one of the participants forwarded me an email she had received today which I would [...]

My purpose is love

Unless you live in a cave, you are probably aware that it was Valentine’s Day yesterday. All things romantic are foremost in my mind not just because it’s THAT month again, but also because I’m majorly excited that next weekend I’ll be offering the Vive La Différence Couples Workshop in [...]

Come on Baby, re-light my fire – how to get ...

Holidays can be the most wonderful time of the year but they can also be the most difficult.   There is something about the message that this particular time should be full of joy that can create a lot more pressure for people who aren’t feeling particularly joyful for various [...]

How to survive the most wonderful time of the year ...

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I saw this photo on the web today and I just had to buy the poster.    To me it says so much about what so many women I know yearn for in relationship:  To be able to be the driven woman,  charging ahead towards her goals and yet to also [...]

The alpha woman in love – does your success hurt ...

I have a new post on Lifehack this week, with some advice about first dates which you can check out here if that pertains to you. If on the other hand, the days of first dates are happily far behind you, I also have something for you! Have you have [...]

Ten Tips for tremendous first dates and one of the ...

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One of the biggest relationship mistakes that people make is to express anger instead of fear or sadness.    That anger often arises from a sense of betrayal derived from the idea that an unwritten rule has been broken, the thought being ‘This is not what I signed up for’.    But [...]

“This is not what I signed up for” How ...

I wrote a post for another blog, which I just discovered for complicated google reasons, I shouldn’t copy here, but I wanted to tell you let you know about it.   You can read it here:   Breaking Up is Hard to do: 20 Questions to help you know when to let [...]

How to know when to let go.

Relationship Hell. We’ve all been there; once upon a time, you couldn’t wait to see this person, now it’s all gone terribly wrong and you don’t have a clue how to fix it.   What causes this miserable phenomenon?    How can you prevent it and how can you escape [...]

6 ways to escape Relationship Hell

Evolution equips us with the desire to learn from the perils we survive. Once bitten, twice shy; yet this pre-historic instinct designed to protect us from predators and poisons, really doesn’t serve us when applied to affairs of the heart. Take Alice. Alice has a broken heart. Like a clock [...]

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